In quite a few of my blogs I've talked about seeing the bigger picture and how people who have dyspraxia, dyslexia and other different ways of thinking see the big picture in life, I thought I would expand on this and write a blog about it.
Seeing the bigger picture means to me having a wide view of the world and seeing everything, it also means I see every solution and a whole range of different situations in day to day life. I would say it is one of my biggest strengths as it means I notice things which others might not and can find different and creative ways of solving problems, and I try to always see the bigger picture when it comes to meeting people. Which has lead to me getting myself into some exciting situations over the years, and use my own experiences to help others.
I always think there are so many other people out there and their families who have gone through what I have and I want to help them as much as I can by writing these blogs, working with charities and try and raise as much awareness as I can whenever I get some advice myself I always think how might this help someone else going through similar, who maybe is struggling in silence or has nobody to turn to. I'm always thinking there might be a reason for why people are the way they are which hopefully makes me come across as an understanding person.
I think it's really important in life not to judge on face value, in reality we have no idea what fully goes on in each others lives, what goes on closed doors, what battles people face. Everyone is different and deals with issues they struggle with differently, some are more open and others more private, it doesn't mean someone is struggling less or more. So it's really important not to make assumptions or judgements. Just like someone doesn't choose gender, sexuality and to have physical illnesses or disabilities, someone doesn't choose to have a invisible difference, disability or mental illness. Issues which are invisible deserve the same respect and understanding. If someone is acting differently, out of character, not being themselves, before you make a judgment try and see that bigger picture.
One thing I have found difficult myself is although I am very good at seeing the bigger picture for other people, I struggle to see it about myself, it can mean my anxieties and worries can think of every possibility which could happen and go wrong, which can lead to me feeling depressed and low, or feeling very sick and poorly. My love of routine makes it challenging when changes happen and how to deal with it, which has always been a challenge throughout my life, when I was younger I used to have anxious meltdowns in so many different situations which I know was difficult for my mum.
It also means still as an adult I find it difficult to relax and switch off as my brain is always on, always thinking. In my next blog I will be talking about the importance of learning to relax, which I know a lot of people with dyspraxia/anxiety struggle with. Over the last few years I have been slowly trying to change my thought processes and see the positives in a solution instead of jumping to the worst possible, I'd by lying if I said it wasn't a daily battle not just for me but for my loved ones around me.
You never know who you might meet in life or what situations you might find yourself in when you see the bigger picture.